Expressing through her videos, blog, the joys, the pains, of our lives.
She is in her mid-twenties, one of the third generation of KAD's.
Oddly we share the SAME DAY-Month of Departure Day
May 21st-Stephanie arrived on the same day that she left Korea.
On 21 May, 1986.
The Korean War Baby's group left 21 May, 1956
WOW, thirty years apart, and we have met online.
"A Village Fool tries Rational Thinking"
No one rational would say that taking a child from it's mother is best. However, Life is full of unfortunate and horrible circumstances. Over the years the reasons for children being sent Overseas for adoption have changed. Korean Society has shifted greatly but in some areas not enough.
Thousands (1-4) of Korean woman Chose to ABORT today. The Laws are not exact and some 'reasons' may be spurious or simply the woman not wanting to have a child at this time of her life, if she is single she would 'ruin' her life.
We must understand that women may be victims of Rape or Incest, Doctors may inform them that there is medical reasons, OTC drugs may be blamed, Or physical deformities seen or assumed. Policies change and fluctuate wildly even affecting the cost of abortions.
Presently the Cost of abortions is causing some from lower income to go to China. Over 95% of Unwed Mothers are under mid-twenties, these young women like others before, face huge pressures. They were rejected by the bio-father, their own family threw them out. Enormous social pressures can make it almost impossible. Yet last year the percentage of Unwed Mother KEEPING their babies rose to 37%!!!
The Times they are a changing.
BUT, another 63% chose to give up their babies for Adoption. They also have a right to do this. NO ONE IS FORCING THEM. For every ONE child that was sent abroad, there were THREE babies adopted in Korea by Koreans. Korea is adopting more of it's own but not ALL.
They do not want many, for various reasons there are always "leftover children"
Sorry, that is life, what many Adoptees seek to find out-WHY? What was the reason?
Some of us may never do a homeland tour, some don't want to be reminded that they aren't "white". Some have come here many times, and a few have settled in for teaching or making a living.
Yes, we may have been sent away or adopted into homes secretly in country, For those of us who were OVERSEAS, KAD's, most were able to find Other Families who Did want us. Families that are NOT robbing or tearing apart another family. Not every Adoptive family was great, Bad things happen to all families, divorce, death, etc.
But for we who were ADOPTED into foreign lands, we lost much, but gained as well what we may never had had in Korea. Growing up in orphanages then out on your own. This was the experience of thousands who were NOT adopted at all.
Sent abroad we were mostly the Unwanted, Rejected by our people, government, family, even our mothers in many cases. There are also tragic cases of being sent
away by family members because of the shame and "losing face". The stories form a panorama of the Spectrum of life.
This is our legacy, what we must work through with help. Adoption was not perfect, and some of us had to deal with many issues. Many of us have returned, many have visited the Agencies or orphanages, meeting foster families, Eating Korean food and 'getting a taste' of our homeland.
Only 2,400 have "Found" their birth families with mixed results. We wonder why so few, yet the culture of Korea is still changing, slowly. We see some stars openly adopting yet 98% of Civil Code Law and Domestic adoptions are completely done in SECRET.
Thousands of women in Korea have given birth to children,
AND GIVEN THEM UP. Estimates could be up to 450,000 Korean women.
The COLLECTIVE pain of these women!!!! The SILENT HAN they must endure. If they were to release their tears at once it might flood cities.
This Thing of Ours-Adoption