Let me be clear on this definition-I believe that if we speak of the "Community of Adoptees" does this limit us to "THOSE LIVING CURRENTLY" In-Country? Or does it mean the greater community of Korean Adoptees Diaspora of 170-200,000 living in many countries. What about OTHER Adoptees, such as Vietnamese War orphans, Haitians, Chinese, Russian, well we could go on and on.
But the community of KOREAN adoptees MUST INCLUDE all members who ACTIVELY and Non-actively are defacto MEMBERS. If the "Silent Majority" do not voice their opinion do 'we' count them out? NO, they do make up huge numbers.
Activism is good and wonderful, BUT CAN one small group say that they SPEAK FOR ALL? No way, Jose!!!
BUT a certain person who knew all of this was VERY curt even downright RUDE. I had invited Richard to 3 Alley Pub, Itaewon, to greet him and welcome him to Korea. We were just having some Scotch and beer, when "Juan Carlos" (alias) called ME out of the blue and asked to see me. I remembered the name and voice but actually when I saw Juan I recognized him from years ago. He was from the earliest days of GOA'L and I do remember him but the old age does affect clearly his involvement. I will ask Ami Natzger, the real FOUNDER of GOA'L what she remembers of Juan Carlos.
Juan asked to speak with me alone and Richard graciously agreed and left us in the booth, wandered about the pub, a complete stranger but the wonderful staff of 3 Alley Pub knew that Richard was 'with the KWB' and took good care of him. I had not even had time to introduce Richard to my many friends yet.
After 45 minutes together with "Juan Carlos" to discuss "current issues" and pleas that I just back off, stop attacking people, which I refute that I am attacking their IDEAS. My analogies of war, fighting, battle, are mere hyperboles and no sane person would REALLY think that I am MAD or INSANE enough to use "bladed" weapons. DO YOU?
(Is this NOT allegoric speech?)
2Co 10:4 For the weapons of our warfare are not fleshly, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strongholds,
(Perhaps those of you who don't READ much, don't understand Allegory, Anology, yikes need spell ck, Analogy, rhetoric, etc?)
I felt that we were done, and signaled Richard to return. After a few minutes more of conversation, in which it was clear that Richard's WIFE was a KAD and his children of Multi-cultural/ethnicity it was discuss about certain schools that would be difficult to get their children into because of the ...well, the fact of his children being HonHyulAh, of mixed-blood, these facts certainly GIVES HIM a VOICE in matters pertaining to current events in "Community of Adoptees". Don't you, dear readers?
Richard asked to give his opinion, very politely, but Mr. Juan Carlos, lashed out rather curtly and rudely, that he had no "voice" in all these matter!!!
Well, I beg to differ, because he is "involved by marriage and family to THIS THING OF OURS-ADOPTION. He most certainly DOES have a right to speak.
Richard and I were a bit stunned, and he tried to reason, pointing out that he and I had an appointment TOGETHER. Juan Carlos had invited himself to OUR party. Richard had graciously walked away and given Juan and I time together.
Yet, Juan was adamant in refusing to listen to him and actually CLIMBED OVER the booth to leave.
WELL, I never. I DON'T want to TERRIFY or make people FEAR the Korean War Baby but I felt inside like this:
BUT I was careful not to raise my voice nor TOUCH in any way physically, least I be accused of violent behavior or "threatening violence", mercy don't want that.
So I followed "Juan Carlos" outside and restated to him to pass on to OTHERS "that The Korean War Baby is willing to accept Unconditional Surrender. PERIOD. Nothing else will do!!"