Half-Korean Girl Struggles to Find Herself
Donaldson's Adoption Institute Report on "Beyond Culture Camp" -Do some moan and whine about it?
Haiti Earthquake-Issue of Orphans - Need to follow accepted international guidelines so important.
"SUCK IT UP" - “means to stop whining, bitching, complaining, moaning, etc. Just deal with it, move on, endure mental, physical, or emotional hardship with no complaining.”
Happy 58th Birthday to ME
Reflecting on being Down and Out in Manila -Blast to the past.
Balanced? Who Me? -Trying to be Balanced
Doctors Performing Fewer Abortions-Prices go UP -Effects on abortion/adoptions
Miracle Baby Left in Trench-Toilet- SOME mothers just Don't want to be Mothers
Drums of Shame-Aborted Lives
Just When I Thought I was Out –I give the reasons that I became involved again in Adoption affairs, in Korea.
By late February, I had decided that I would throw my hat into the ring. The only way to insure that Global Overseas Adoptees’ Link would remain truly neutral and BE for ALL adoptees not just for the ones living in Korea, which I have coined KADLinK (Korean ADoptee Living in Korea), was for me to run for Secretary General. Then I began to see signs of the Fake Election that Jan Wenger, alias Dae-Won Wenger now using KIM Dae-Won was planning. WHY was it Fake, just a SHAM you ask? Because rules were created that subverted the 'deadlines for submitting application/letters of recommendation/etc.' to meaningless dribble. Jan allowed the group led by Rasmussen/A.S.K. to lock up the election with European rules of NGO's instead of the Korean/USA Rules of Order that DO NOT count 'Abstention votes'.
Motivation to Serve GOA'L – This was one of the letters that candidates were to write and was sent to all present membership of GOA’L. Unfortunately, rules were sent out in early March, allowing Julie Jong Koch to run as a candidate WITH NO LETTERS/Recommendations/etc.) DO YOU SMELL FAKE ELECTION?
SHAME Election and Gang of 33 What a Horror! A gang of 33 KADLinKs who were all Whiney crybabies who want to stop adoptions from Korea, have effectively taken over GOA’L, with the help of Jan Wenger, alias Dae-Won Wenger now using KIM Dae-Won. By voting with ABSTENTIONS ( Curiously missing from the Annual General Report) they locked up the vote for SG, made sure no one could vote from OUTSIDE the country in future elections. Illegally they voted out Board Members INDIVIDUALLY, when they did NOT have the Simple Majority to do so. There were many outright lies in the finished Annual General Meeting report. It was 60 days later that they released the spurious report that OMITTED many facts, and in many posts I have presented the evidence. Documents were sent to me by former GOA’L staff, who would not follow the abomination of the truth and some were pushed out.
I had over the next few months, been compelled to expose the Plot to take over GOA’L, which I learned was because of the three KAD groups in South Korea, only
The Plot to Take Over GOA'L
Plot? What Plot?
Let them Hate Me
Bamboozled- Sham Election of GOAL
You've Been Bamboozled!
Annual General Meeting Report COOKED
Since August, during the IKAA Gathering, the Korean War Baby tried in vain to reach out to the new leaders by an Open Letter.
I met with Rev. Kim of KoRoot and tried to begin the long road to reconciliation. YET, even with personal emails and text messages to those involved, even the newly Selected Leaders of GOA’L, NO ONE RESPONDED.
|James Russo- Are you|
Real Korean or KAD?
|Issac Tufvesson, VSG thinks|
it was all a "drama".
|Why are Board Members calling all the shots at GOA'L?|
Who IS the leader? IS Jan Wenger still SG?
So yes, it was a crazy year for the KWB, but I will continue to promote the issues of Unwed Mothers, Domestic and Civil Code Law Adoptions, and the continuing of InterCountry Adoptions. As long as This Thing of Ours-Adoption continues to be such a complex issue open Adoption Discourse must continue. Korean IS changing slowly but prejudices and stigmas continue to this day against Adoption and single unwed motherhood. The KWB is open to work with all, on promoting a Balanced Multi-tiered Plan to do what is best from Family Preservation, open domestic adoption, then if need be International adoption. LAST should be Institutional Care/Foster Care because, dear friend,
“Every child deserves a home”!!!
Mothers should be helped to keep their babies, IF they are willing to do so. More Unwed Mothers are trying to keep their children but they need to be given more help from government, changes will have to occur in Korean Society by encouraging NOT by condemnation but by telling the Mother's side.
BUT, if the natural/biological/birth parents are not capable, nor are wanting or able to "Parent", then Adoption must be considered next. Perhaps then by ethnic Koreans both in-country but openly no more SECRET adoptions; then all others must be considered.
Love can be found in Adoption, those who claim otherwise must deal with all those who HAVE found loving families. They are not all 'happy adoptees' but most are working through the issues of their lives, discovering that their Adoption Identity is not just based on genes but many factors that must be DEALT with.
Many complain about Adoption (Cart) as though it is the reason for all of life’s problems for Adoptees.
Isn’t it the REJECTION/ABANDONNMENT/SEPARATION that is the HORSE?
I mean WHAT COMES FIRST?
What Was First, Abandonment or Adoption?
Whatever the reasons, the deep emotional, psychological, mental issues arise from the beginnings. To blame Adoption as the Reason is wacked! Backwards, like the Cart before the Horse.
Let’s put things in their proper prospective. I am amazed at all the writers, some very 'gifted' out in cyberspace who get it totally WRONG. You know the ones, who lament, whine, and moan about how Adoptees have all these PROBLEMS and seem to blame the “Cart” or Adoption. It is the HORSE (Loss/abandonment/separation) that is the source of the problems later in life. These writers continually put blame on 'being adopted' as the problem. WHAT RUBBISH! What a pile of Horseshit!
If you are an Adoptee, healing must begin with the basic understanding of where and how your life began and what led to your being adopted. Yes, we Adoptees have Rights but what of the rights of Birth/Natural mothers/fathers who DO NOT WANT contact because of the circumstances? What of their right of privacy? It is complex and multi-faceted and must be approached with open-minded Discourse, respect for others, facing the ugly realities of life. As we use to say in Vietnam "There it is..."
THIS is the beginning of understanding This Thing of Ours-Adoption.
Let's try to get the Horse in front of the Cart first!