What does it mean to be balanced? We get the origin from the Latin words "Bi" and "lanx" meaning '2 metal pans'. You know the scale with pans that 'balances' in the middle to show equal parts in weight. So Balance could mean equality of the parts of a whole. Hey I flunked a math class and was about to be drafted so I enlisted in the US Marines! I think I understand “Equal Parts of a Whole” means each one is equal to the other.
The Korean War Baby believes that to have Balanced Views we need ALL the facts, opinions, stories, etc. from ALL the people involved in "This Thing of Ours-Adoption". Some call it a Adoption Triad, counting Adoptee, Birth 'People'/Family, and Adoptive People/Family but there are many more that are Part of the Whole. Governments, Court Advocates, Social Workers, Police Dept., Adoption Agencies, United Nations, Hague Convention, Religious Leaders, Women's Rights groups, Children's Rights, YOU COULD GO ON and ON.
Every group has some part and influence on "This Thing of Ours-Adoption". Perhaps you are wondering why do I borrow a "La Cosa Nostra" term "This Thing of Ours" when speaking of the Mafia organization. I see Adoption as well very Organized and Powerful but Not just Evil. Some may see adoption as Child Laundering or stealing; others as the greatest thing since 'sliced bread' (showing my age). WELL, the entire SPECTRUM has extremes and everything in between.
Why Balance with "THEM"?
Getting back to BALANCE...In order to find balance you have to have EQUALITY. The pie must be cut into many Equal parts and ALL parts should listen and learn from the others. No one group should say "Only our view is right". There are many sides, more than a Triad, involved and affecting the Balance.
Balancing New Tires
When you buy new Tires each must be Balanced on a machine, with small weights added to some parts of the rim. If tires are not balanced as the tire spins faster at higher speeds any small IMbalance is magnified and produces bouncing, shaking and can cause a really rough ride or tires to blow.
SEE, all 'players' in this game of life should/must/can be IN balance with the others. If we truly hear and read all the stories we might even come to a Balanced Opinion that would truly seek the Best solution from case to case. Can anyone argue with that?
It begins with listening to ALL stories from the horrible to the wonderful-there is the complete spectrum aspect; sorting fact from fiction; comparing the differences; analyzing all the data. It takes hard work, it takes dedication, it takes wanting to find Balance.
Without Balance Adoption will continue to be a bumpy, bouncy, rough ride, just waiting to 'blow out'.
The Korean War Baby