THIS THING OF OURS-ADOPTION

THE KOREAN WAR BABY

My name is Don Gordon BELL and I am one of the earliest of the first generation of KAD's (Korean ADoptees). The Korean War had been settled by Armistice three years before I left war-torn Seoul, Korea, on May 21, 1956. It was the first plane of twelve 'war babies' processed thru the Harry Holt Adoption Program. Read more of MY STORY on My Pages.
I grew up in a typical middle-class family of English-Scottish roots in greater Los Angeles, Ca, USA. Memories faded, Korean language was 'lost' and I did not know anything about the country of my birth until I met Korean Marines in Vietnam while serving with the US Marines. It was my first exposure to real Korean people. I was not completely aware of how prejudiced most Koreans thought towards a Half-Breed like me. I learned what "Tuigi" meant, a Korean word for a "Child of a Foreign devil". Oh, wonderful.


All my life I always had to answer the question: "What ARE you?" and I simply would tell 'my story'. It was not a big deal for me, for my Adoptive Parents had taught me that being an American meant that WE were from many countries. I never 'wished to be White' and just learned to stand up for my own identity. MY Identity was as an American, with mixed heritage. I did not know what being "Korean" meant but often wondered about my roots, and what my birth father's ethnicity. Mexican, Native Americans, and Spanish people would tell me that I had their 'genes' for sure. Little did I know they were right!

After college, I traveled to Manila and for ten years I lived in the Philippines. I was excepted as a 'mestizo' and fit into the former Spanish colony. I was a B-movie Character Actor,
working on international and local films, enjoying a 'crazy and wild' abandonment. Then a life changing experience gave me faith in a personal Higher Being. After walking away from the film business, I lived back in the USA, not sure of my direction in life finding work in construction, finish carpentry, door hanging, and many other jobs I'd like to forget.

In 1991, at 38, I attended a Holt Heritage Camp that was a great experience and really began my own journey of Adoption Identity search. I had never thought much of my Korean culture, though I always felt proud of being "HALF-Korean" and "half-Something".

In 1994 I came back to Seoul, Korea, with my church Vineyard Christian Fellowship, and was invited to stay with a church in East Seoul, for one year. I have lived here since late 1995- re-discovering my "Korean-ness", teaching English and telling my Adoption Story to thousands of Korean students of all ages, helping their understanding of Korean Adoptees. It is one of the issues that Korea is now facing, even for its own secretly adopted children, those who were adopted IN-Country by Koreans who desired a family but due to problems with Infertility secretly adopt.

I was a charter member in 1997 (first dozen members) of GOA'L (Global Overseas Adoptees' Link, founded by Ami Nafzger) and continue to be involved with the complex issues of This Thing of Ours-Adoption. Thousands of KADs have visited Korea over the years, searching for their culture and Some search for birth family. Seventy-five thousand have come, yet only 2,400 plus have found Reunion with Birth family, often with varying results. There are many complexities, many don't want to search concerned about offending their Adoptive Families. Each KAD must decide what they want to do, when to do it, etc.


At 67, I am still 'working thru' my Adoption Identity. Each of YOU need to 'work through' your own understanding and hopefully find forgiveness and healing. Read many different accounts and compare before coming to conclusions. I hope that you will learn what IS happening NOW, in the land of your birth, the Rep. of Korea (South Korea). (See Report Links).

Times are changing, the reasons for 'relinquishment/given up for adoption' have shifted, but there continues to be a need for a multi-tiered approach and understanding of Adoption issues. Slowly, attitudes of Korean society ARE changing for the better. But, the majority continue to feel embarrassment and shame. Thus, Adoption is still shrouded in secrecy even for those who are adopted In-country . There ARE positive signs and movements of NGO's and KAD groups are advocating for the Unwed Mothers. However, two-thirds of pregnant women each year, continue to give up their babies for adoption. One out of four are sent overseas, YET three are secretly adopted in-country. The Myth that "Koreans don't adopt" is false, but they need to open up and hopefully change their shame to pride.


This blog is for EVERYONE, whether you are an Adoptee, Adoptive Family, Birth Family or involved in Adoption in ANY way as a professional, social worker, official, etc, from Korea or the world. We examine the complex issues and personal journeys that we, domestic and overseas adoptees, have to face and sort out in This Thing of Ours-Adoption. (Use the Search function to check for Posts on various topics, TransRacial, Tran-Cultural, Multi-Cultural families, Domestic, Civil Code Law Adoptions, InterCountry Adoption, etc.)

I personally have come to a compromised, nuanced position on this thing of ours-adoption. I advocate a Multi-tiered Plan that tries to be balanced, realistic, fair to all.

UPDATE: Living in the Philippines since 2010, at first teaching students from several countries as an Online Tutor, based in Makati, Metro Manila. I was working on a Digital Library for Online Tutoring or ELearning; developing an agritourism farm; and Overseas Retirement Care for foreigners needing 24/7 health care.

Then some 18 months ago, in July of 2012 I met with Andrew Leavold, a crazy film obsessed Aussie who helped "pull me back into film making".

WHEW! Lot on my plate. I have also been learning much about the Filipino society's very different viewpoints on unwed motherhood and adoption.

As of Sept. 2012, I worked on an Indie Film, "Baybayin, the Palawan Script", directed by Auraeus Solito, and international award winning Filipino director. I had a role in the film and explored my hobby as a STILLS Photographer. Currently I have quit all teaching, co-writing on an international film that will be done in 3D and CGI effects. I am back in the film-making business and I love it. I have continued to act in Independent and international films and in many projects worked as Stills/Bts Photographer. I cover film festivals, events, and continue to try to improve my Game. Semi-retired but love to keep active, now exploring mirrorless 4K cameras but still a Canon Guy.


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#20 Holt Adoptee/First Dozen on Flight departing Seoul on 21 May, 1956 to USA.


July 6, 2010

The Journey...: Leaving soon!

 There are so many excellent blogs that show personal journeys, here is one that shows how some Adoptive Parents are dealing with all the complex issues of raising International Adoptees. They are not “rich white folks” but a simple young couple from middle America, typical couple who turned to adoption to have the joy of being parents. For some this is a ‘horrible thing to do’, they actually claim that people who adopt are…get this, ‘stealing’ children. HAH, what rubbish!!
Examine the motives and the heart of this couple through this blog and see for yourself how they are learning and working through all these issues. For the great majority, adoption is a wonderful thing for most involved, yet it is not perfect. There are complications and the birth families are part of the equations.
The reasons for giving up/relinquishment/abandonment are many and life goes on for birth mothers/fathers/family. That some are able to reunite in a larger extended ‘family’ sometimes takes place. Sometimes it is NOT so nice.See how this family are also dealing with that. Some interesting and eye opening things are shared, we who are involved, ALL of us need to keep an open mind. Let’s not jump to conclusions or put people into some ‘box’.
The Journey...: Leaving soon!
My thoughts about my family's journey through life, focusing mainly on raising our two children, both adopted from Korea.

Toni

About Me

I am the mother of two awesome children, ages 10 & 12, both adopted from South Korea. I'm the wife of Jim, the engineer/scientist and hot air balloon pilot. I'm also a fourth grade teacher. I started this blog to start collecting links and information about being the parent of two Korean children, to share my thoughts and ideas on parenting them, and to hear from others who also parent Korean children. It is a journey for me, as I learn more about them, more about myself and more about Korea.

Monday, July 5, 2010


Leaving soon!
I just realized how quickly my trip is approaching! Next week the kids are at Camp Chin-gu (friend) - a local Korean culture camp. A week from Sunday we leave for our 18 days in Korea. While I am very excited, I am suddenly hit with the realities of dealing with leaving for almost 3 weeks and with getting everything figured out over there (subway, buses, guest house, etc.). Lots to do. Right now we will land in Seoul on 7/20 and spend the night at the Holt Guest House. We will have 2 days in Seoul. In the afternoon of the second day we will take the KTX Train to Busan (so fast!), where we are staying with the parents of a friend of mine - they are so sweet and kind to us. The next day we will take a bus to Goseong and pick up my son's younger brother who will come to Busan to stay with us for several days while my son's Halmoni is working. This is great!! We were not expecting to be able to do this. This will allow my son to have lots of time with his brother.
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This blog is from a couple who are ‘learning to do it better’, helping their Korean Adoptees to learn about their native culture through Culture Camp for example. This trip will be monumental in the family’s development and help their identities as Koreans. Read more of this family’s experience as they grow together in understanding This Thing of Ours-Adoption.

July 4, 2010

Guidelines for Birth Family Search

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Guideline for Post-Adoption Services (Family Search)

Division of Family Support
The Ministry for Health, Welfare,
and Family Affairs

These are the basic guidelines from the Korean Government. Any Korean Adoptee, Adoptive Parent/family, Birth Family members, adoption professionals should go and copy this to their PDF files. This will help to understand the standardization that is being attempted to use the same forms, and is a step in the right direction.

REMEMBER IF YOU ARE A KOREAN ADOPTEE, Maybe you are NOT ready yet to search but REQUESTING your files may help you to understand your circumstances better. You may then decide to make further steps to try to make contact. Study and read, TALK with friends and Adoptive Family about what you FEEL and your thoughts. BE OPEN, for you own sake and your loved ones.

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2. Application Process

  • Adoptees or adoptive parents who live overseas may request a birth family search from the central authority of the adoptive country or their co-operating agencies, or request through KCARE or the adoption agencies in Korea.
  • Adoptees or adoptive parents who live in Korea may request a birth family search from the adoption agencies, or from KCARE if information from the agencies are insufficient.


Required Documents :
- Post-adoption services application form,
- Adoptee's ID card (e.g. passport, driver's license),
- Adoptive parents' ID cards, and a parental consent form (for adoptees under 18)
- Photograph of the requester(taken within the last 6 months),
- Other related documents and pictures from the original adoption that might help with the birth family search.

Note THIS on Pages 7-8:

4. Deadlines and Notifications

  • A. Disclosure at the Beginning of Application
    KCARE and the adoption agencies should disclose the following items to the requester at the beginning of the service :
  • Service may be limited when it is difficult to locate an adoption
    triad(adoptee, adoptive family, or birth family) or when a triad (member) does not wish to be contacted (e.g. phone calls, mails, etc).
  • If an adoption triad(adoptee, adoptive family, or birth family) has been notified of a search and does not wish to be contacted or be reunited, no additional request will be made until the refusing entity changes his/her mind.
  • No information will be released when the birth family or adoptive family did not authorize the release of their information at the time of the adoption.

Page 8: Application for Post-Adoption Services

Application for Post Adoption ServicesThis is the form that is used by all Adoption Agencies Post Adoption Services sections.

NOTE: THEY DO NOT REQUIRE but it is a good idea to have the document taken to a Notary Public with Identifying documents. A scan of your PASSPORT, Driver’s Licence, or other ID with Photo and signature should be sent also.

KCare is the Korean Central Adoption Resources quasi-government entity that has been working for just over a year. Remember that they have only a few facts digitized on cases, what they will do is help to direct to the main Adoption Agencies. IF YOU KNOW THE ADOPTION AGENCY, just GO directly to their Post Adoption Services section:

Social Welfare Society (SWS) Post Adoption Services

Korean Social Services (KSS) Post Adoption Services

Eastern Social Welfare Society (ESWS) Post Adoption Services

Holt-Korea Post Adoption Services

 

In turn the orphanage/baby home/etc. that one was FIRST brought to will be contacted. Your files should have that information in them. However, do remember that sometimes the orphanage or home has closed and some records may or may not be included. You will be told what happened to the orphanage or home.

To be continued.

Post Adoption Services

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Post Adoption Services Holt International

The Korean War Baby will be looking at Post Adoption Services sections of all four of the major government approved Adoption Agencies- Holt Korea; Social Welfare Society SWS; Eastern Social Welfare Society ESWS; Korean Social Service KSS.

It must be remembered that Holt INTERNATIONAL is a separate entity and Holt KOREA since the early 1970’s has been completely run by Korean leadership. Even Ms. Molly Holt was only recently made a Board of Director member, the Holt Intl. does not have ‘control’ over the policies and actions of Holt Korea.

*Request Information will take you to this online form.

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Several things to note for the Korean Adoptee who is thinking about finding out more about your life. REMEMBER that some files are written in Hangul in your Holt Korea files.

**YOU WILL NOT be given all documents though, for instance the personal data of the birth parents cannot be given until contact is made and they sign willingness to make contact. They DO have the right to chose NOT to make contact. Sorry about that, but most women may have married and have not told about their secrets. It is not like the Western countries, majority of Korean Society would be ashamed of revealing that a child was ‘given away/relinquished’ for adoption. KWB

The four agencies process adoptions both Domestic and Overseas, (SURPRISED? Domestic adoptions may be 3-4 times the Overseas numbers)  and took care of children after they were sent from other ORPHANAGES throughout Korea. Many orphanages have closed and sometimes files from them are limited or lost.

Some files might be in an orphanage founder’s home, and there is a CHANCE that some information is contained there THAT WAS NOT PASSED ON. This is not an attempt at hiding, it just was not deemed ‘important’ to pass on, it is just noted that the child was relinquished. FOR INSTANCE the Korean War Baby discovered that a document roughly translated “Reason for Relinquishment” was in an adoptee’s file at the orphanage but not sent along to the processing agency. This “Reason for Relinquishment” gave a clue to why the two siblings were ‘given up’. Somehow this was NOT included in the files.

As time went on and under different circumstances, such as double abandonment (29,950 cases were left with no name, not even family name) or Disabled child (37,276 cases where most also had no name given). We must understand though that the parents or mothers were faced with HUGE pressures from their own family, society, lack of government support (which may NOT have been considered necessary since only 3% of Disabled children ARE ADOPTED within country).

* NOTE: We must accept these reasons, deal with HURT, PAIN, HATE, LOSS, ETC. and try to find forgiveness for our mothers/fathers/siblings. As adults we must WORK THROUGH this and even secular professionals tell us that FORGIVENESS is the key to HEALING. I personally think trying to forgive others can only come when one has discovered FORGIVENESS FROM A HIGHER POWER.

Also, in the case of say American Adoption Agencies they have usually only the ENGLISH language files, as the Korean Hangul documents were translated but copies of the original DO CONTAIN some facts such as Chinese characters for the name have different meanings.

“YONG” is written in Hangul as but in Chinese there are many HanJa (Chinese characters) that are translated into “Yong”. In the KWB’s name “Yong Soo” the character for Yong is – it means “Face” but other characters might mean “dragon”. Korean PASSPORTS may or may not have Chinese characters.

If the BIRTH MOTHER NAMED her child, not ABANDONING it at a public place, then chances are it had Chinese characters as well as Hangul (Korean written language). Abandoned in public places or even with ‘written relinquishment forms’ was commonly used.

It is hoped that Korean media would continue to remind “those who gave up their children” to contact the orphanage or adoption agencies, even KCARE to inquire about the well being of their child. Most birth parents DO NOT know if their child was adopted IN-COUNTRY OR OVERSEAS. Imagine a birth parent seeing a child that looks like them on the streets of Seoul. The chances of meeting a “Half-sibling” may also be a reason to NOT GET MARRIED TO “IB Yang in” persons. You might marry a relative!!!

Again, so-called Domestic Adoptions DO NOT COUNT the also secret but LEGAL CIVIL CODE LAW adoptions allowed outside of the “domestic adoptions processed through the four adoption agencies”. See here for Korean Women’s Development Institutes reports.

May2009_IssuesUnwedMothers_CivilCodeLawAdoptions

“There have been two tracks of laws for adopting children within Korea: Civil Code and Special Act relating to Promotion and Procedures of Adoption (hereafter SAPPA)…

The adoption practices by Civil Code are very different from SAPPA. Traditional motivation for adoption is to continue patriarchal family lineage. Family without a son used to adopt a child of relatives. The adopted child keeps maintaining relationship with and rights to inherit from biological parents…According to Civil Code, adoption contract is made by mutual agreement of adoptee and adoptive parents…Adoption based on Civil Code is far behind in protecting the welfare of adoptee children.”

The 1961 Act was abolished and renamed as 1976 Special Adoption Act to cover both intercountry and domestic adoption. In 1995, it is renamed as SAPPA to strengthen the welfare of adopted children and to promote domestic adoption. Under the influence of Confucian tradition, family bond and lineage have been strongly emphasized in Korea, which consequently affect adoption law and practices. Despite the new special act for adoption, many are not ready to adopt abandoned and relinquished children even when they want adoption. High proportion of domestic adoption is presumed to be done secretly. Many adoptive parents report their adopted child as their birth child to administrative office.


KWB notes this has become possible since Hojeok, the Family Registry system has been changed to Individual Registry recently. Previously Adoptive Parents were forced to include the birth parents on the Hoju-Father's Family Registry. The estimate is 97% are SECRET.

According to 2008 adoption statistics issued by Office of Court Administration, only 49 out of total 1,306 cases based on SAPPA are reported to Court. It means that parents reported them as their own birth child rather than adopted child.do not want to have their friends and relatives know their child adopted. Adoptive parents Most domestic adoption cases collected by Ministry of Health, Welfare, and Family are not reported to Court as adoption. It means they are adopted secretly.

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Don’t trust ME, read the whole damn report, fact check and see for yourself. Isn’t it a wonder that those who want to “JUST STOP INTERCOUNTRY Adoptions” KNOW ALL THESE FACTS!! Yet they ignore the facts because their agenda is “Woe is me, I was adopted into a rich white family and I are lost my culture, language, name’ oh, boo hoo…”.

HEY Suck it up, GET OVER IT. Work through your wounds, there is help out there.

Stop whining and learn ALL the facts. Nobody stole you from your country or mother, even TRACK has SIX, yes a whopping 6 cases that they have documented with IRREGULARITIES. Celebrated cases of “KIDNAPPED” KAD’s were Kidnapped by their mother’s FAMILY. As in the cases of Sunny Jo and “Resilience” the film (now showing in film festivals all over) these are EXCEPTIONS not the rule. Dr. Kim Su Rasmussen- can you dispute these FACTS? Please respond to the KWB. As for you who falsely claim that most of us were ‘stolen from our birth mothers/fathers, families, country, culture, etc. etc. WEEEEELLL,  

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HELLO??!! What GREAT BULL CRAP! MIGHT AS WELL FACE IT BOYS AND GIRLS…MOST OF US WERE GIVEN UP.

Undocumented, unwanted, abandoned, rejected by family, birth father, birth mother, society…The reasons are many, but the damage is done, hopefully YOUR Adoptive Parents and siblings, extended family, were able to help you adjust. Now you may be curious about your past, GOOD, talk to your Adoptive Family members about it, let them know you LOVE THEM, but want more answers if possible.

As an individual though YOU NEED TO DEAL WITH LIFE. Try to find out but read many stories or other adoptees journeys. Compare Pro and Con blogs not just the “whiney ones”. You a guy? Grow a PAIR, you a girl, well you need to grow a different pair, all have to be adults. There are many books and online sources, find a counselor who really understands This Thing of Ours-Adoption. A broad reading will help you sort through it all. Good luck, God Bless, you on your journey.

The Korean War Baby

July 2010

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Every new profile of a Korean American will be featured on the homepage. A profile will consist of the person’s name, age, location, occupation, and a personal statement that could be a mini bio, a memorable story, a rant, aspirations, or anything else. Our goal is to compile a collection of profiles that showcase the diversity and many interesting personalities of the Korean American population. We hope that our collective efforts will provide a snapshot of the Korean American community at this point in our history.

We’re not a celebrity blog and we don’t care if you’re known by millions or if you’re known by a few dozen. We’re excited to learn more about you and to share your story with others.

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The Korean War Baby thinks being a Korean-American has multiple meanings. Look at my posting on the ‘degrees of REAL KOREANNESS’ from December 2009.
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“…However, the public in Korea has some very interesting views on “What is a REAL KOREAN”. The KWB has heard from thousands of students, yes, at least a couple of thousand, on this issue. He has taught at two major universities, three Middle Schools, plus business classes, Shinsegae Department Culture Centers, and Private classes for over 14 years in Seoul, Korea.
 

In EVERY case the issue of being a Korean War Baby and IP Yang In or 입양인 comes up. At one middle school, which must remain unnamed, over 2/3 of the students had lived abroad 3 years or more. They had studied at private or public schools in English speaking countries or in International Schools.
 

The remaining 1/3 of students told the KWB several times that those who had lived OUTSIDE Korea for more than two years “They were NOT Korean anymore! When he questioned them further, they implied that living outside the country for that long put them OUTSIDE the “WE” or “우리" concept. They were not in the group of Real Koreans anymore, in my students' own jealous mindsets.”

Compare this chart from earlier post:


What shade of Korean-Ness are You?

Percentage Factors of Percentage of Korean-Ness
100 % Full-Blooded Real Korean-Both parents are Korean/live in Korea (North or South) their entire lives/speak and write in Hangul/know history, culture, food,/ served in military (for males)/studied abroad LESS than 2 years.
90 % Korean student who has REAL KOREAN Parents/Grandparents- They have studied abroad MORE than 2 years and speak other languages very well. They are still considered just Real Koreans.
80 % First Generation Emmigrants from Korea- Korean Adult Emigrants to Foreign country. They have chosen to emigrate with their family. Their level of understanding of Korea is 100%. Many chose to keep Korean citizenship for themselves, some become citizens of new country.

Korean Diapora- Living for several generations in CHINA, JAPAN, RUSSIA, and others are not treated the same as Koreans living in USA, UK, European Union.They cannot get the F-4 visa to come and live/work. Because they live out of the country, much loss of Culture/ language ability split with host country/citizenship may be of host country. Sakhalin island changed citizenship several times.
70 % 1.5 Generation Immigrant-Both Korean Parents and family Emigrated to another country when under 18 yrs. old. Caught between both cultures they are still adjusting to their new situation.
60 % 2.0 Generation Immigrant -Both Korean Parents but BORN a CITIZEN of Foreign Country and lived there most of life. (‘Korean-American’) Speak and write Korean at low to mid level. Does not know Korean Culture/history/practices very well but has general understanding. Considered a Kyopo, many young think they are NOT Korean but became the citizen of country they live in.
50 % Bi-Racial/Bi-Cultural- One parent Korean other is NOT; Lives in Korea. Culture/language/history knowledge high level. Education in International Schools help develop more OPEN understanding on racial prejudice. IF attending local Korean schools child must face more prejudice from other “Real Koreans”.
40 % Bi-Racial/Bi-Cultural- One parent Korean other is NOT; Lives Foreign country with low to moderate levels of Cultural/language/history ability and understanding. Deals with prejudice but has support in having parents from both ‘worlds’.
30 % Full-Blooded Korean Adoptee-Older child 3 and up, remembers some of Korean life: has lost most language/cultural understanding/etc.
Baby or very young (up to 3) Full-Blooded Korean Adoptee- None or only ‘learned knowledge’ of being Korean. Culture Camps, self study, trips to motherland, etc help in Korean Identity development.
Some Full-Blooded Korean Adoptees are also Bi-Cultural as they are adopted by Korean living abroad as Residents or Citizens, so they may speak or understand 25% of Korean language. Some are adopted by Korean Adoptees married to foreigners.
Level of understanding is based on learned or experienced culture.
20 % Mixed-Blood Korean Adoptee- From 25 to 50% Korean genetic ancestry; adopted into Foreign family (usually Caucasian); only learned knowledge of being Korean, or now living in motherland to continue ‘Going Native Korean’.
10 % Low Level of Blood Quantum- Person with one Grandparent or 12.5% Korean Ancestry. Extremely low level or NO understanding of Korean Culture/language/history/etc. This is according to the person’s own desires and self-identity, i.e. “How does one view yourself”
*Remember that it is where YOU put yourself and how YOU identify yourself that matters. This is the Korean War Baby’s own chart.

The Korean War Baby would love to hear from KAD’s on his chart of Korean-ness, any comments of other groups, please let him know. The point is that being say, Korean-American is full of complexity and varying levels.

When Korean Adoptees come back to live or work for extended times they run into the problem of “explaining WHAT they are” and “Why don’t you speak Korean well?” Many have experienced that when they open their mouth and try speaking Korean language they will be misunderstood and constantly reminded that their degree of Koreanness is not enough. Be tough, tell them who you ARE. Don’t be shy or apologetic.

The KWB tries to use humor. “I was one of Korea’s first Exports” gets them all the time. I have told “My story” thousands of times in the 15 years I have lived here, and think of it as “in your face, hello, I am back…get used to me and just deal with it.” Now don’t get me wrong, I thank GOD that I was able to have a family with all their imperfections adopt me. As a HALF-Korean that is just plain fact, but I am glad to see that ‘Real Koreans’ are now having to adjust their definition of what Korean-Ness is REALLY ABOUT.

With multi-cultural marriages numbering over 160,000 (Sure about 10-15 percent fail) they have recently documented over 103,000 Mixed-Blood children. HEY, KOREA is NOT Homogeneous any more!!!! HAHAHA. 

Get over it, get real I tell my Korean Students.
Time to redefine!!! What is a Real Korean, Hmmm?

July 2, 2010

Welcome to Pact, An Adoption Alliance

The Korean War Baby recently came across this site that has excellent resources for understanding This Thing of Ours-Adoption, from every part of the Adoption Triad and Adoption Professionals. Check it out, just one of many that gives the various Spectrum of diverse experiences, stories, lessons learned, etc.

Welcome to Pact, An Adoption Alliance

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What is Pact?

Pact's name was chosen because of its meaning: a "pact" is a solemn agreement; to be of one mind; a covenant. At Pact, we believe that in making an adoption plan, birth parents and adoptive parents enter into an agreement to recognize and protect the best interests of the child. Essential to that agreement is a lifelong commitment to recognize, respect and address the dual heritages - both personal and cultural - that are the child's birth right. Our goal is for every child to feel wanted, honored and loved, a cherished member of a strong family with proud connection to his or her rich heritages.

A nonprofit 501(c)(3) organization begun by two adoptive parents in 1991, Pact has developed a national reputation for excellence in serving all members of the adoption triad. Each year, Pact offers educational events attended by more than 1500 individuals, provides - free of charge - over 1000 crisis consultations to expectant parents, and consults with hundreds of potential adoptive parents. Top priority is given to programs especially designed to support and inform adopted children and adopted adults of color. As Pact's national prominence grows, our ability to meet the needs of all members of the triad increases.

Since 1991, Pact's founders and small staff have dedicated themselves to the mission of providing the highest quality adoption-related services to children of color, their birth parents and their adoptive parents. Despite its limited budget, Pact has helped place over 1200 children in permanent, loving families and has counseled thousands of adopted adults, expectant parents, foster parents and pre- and post- adoptive parents. Pact also works with adoption professionals to facilitate adoptions and to initiate programs that better serve clients raising children of color. Importantly, Pact goes beyond traditional adoption services by offering extensive post-placement opportunities for all families raising children of color (same-race, transracial, international, transcultural, etc.), providing informative and essential education, connection and support.

What Does Pact's Internet Site Offer?

Pact's goal is to create and maintain the internet's most comprehensive site addressing issues for adopted children of color, offering informative articles on related topics as well as profiles of triad members and their families, links to other internet resources, and a book reference guide with a searchable database. The site provides reprints of past Pact Press issues, as well as opportunities to interact with other triad members and to ask questions of birth parents, adopted people, adoptive parents and adoption professionals.

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