ON A WING AND A PRAYER

The Korean War Baby suggests that to fully understand This Thing of Ours-Adoption one must try to read many different perspectives from as many folks as possible. Why you might actually learn something, you know expand knowledge and all that, because no one that I know of “Knows everything about Adoption”. Reminds me of the tale of ‘The blind men describing an Elephant’- each one grabs just one part of the beast and tells what they “Think” an Elephant must be like.
One should/must hear from Adoptive Parents, good and bad, older and younger. Christian and Gay/Lesbian, Buddhist and Agnostic, etc. Then how about “Happy Adoptees” or Adoptees of Special Needs, Mixed-Blood Adoptees, Older Adoptees, etc. etc.

Adoption is discussed by most of the Major World Religions. Taking care of the widows, orphans, and the poor, is emphasized as pure religion.

ON A WING AND A PRAYER
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Tuesday, September 14, 2010

Loving Mercies...

"To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything and your heart will be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact you must give it to no one, not even an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements. Lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket, safe, dark, motionless, airless, it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. To love is to be vulnerable."
~CS Lewis, The Four Loves


Commenting on the recent PBS film, "Wo Ai Nee"

Friday, September 10, 2010

Adoption is not for whimps...

   After watching "Wo Ai Nee" and seeing little Faith's journey to her forever family and her future, it has confirmed to me what I knew all along..... Adoption is not for Whimps!  Not parent Whimps or kid Whimps...  It involves pain and loss and fighting to get to a place where you can sit quietly in a chair and hold a child who molds to you and sighs and sleeps in your arms...  That is peace... that is making it.


   It does not matter if your child is sleeping in your lap exhausted after screaming two hours or if you also have a bloody lip while doing the rocking...  just stick a Kleenex on it and enjoy the moment.  It does not matter if you are rocking a huge child who, for a moment, becomes the baby you never got to hold... You want to be able to rock them like the baby they were when maybe you could have fixed the deep problems that will not let them move on to joy and peace and success in their life.  Because they are yours (and you are theirs even when they do not seem to want you) and at that moment never was there a more perfect and beautiful child then the one in your arms...."

 “On a Wing and a Prayer” is from a Christian perspective (faith warning!) but rich with common sense and the experiences of a couple who adopted several children. Take a look, even if you are queer/gay/hate religion/don’t believe in god because you JUST MIGHT LEARN SOMETHING about the struggles of “Taking by Choice” a child who needs a loving home. It is NOT FOR WIMPS!!! Folks adopting need to be strong and develop great patience. Just ask the Korean War Baby’s Family about that one!