Uh OH!
To my friends and collegues, adoptees, All who have known me in the past,
I am accused of 'Threatening Violence and even murder'. Such accusations are grave and serious matters. I ask for your help and a reference from you who know me. Do you think my Blog seriously has "explicit and implicit threats of violence" and "veiled threat of violence or even murder" or intimidating "individuals by making them feel unsafe and vulnerable to physical assaults"?
I will address this open letter on my blog, where I have posted it, item by item, in a couple of days.
I am terribly concerned that a few KAD's, in the "community of Korean Adoptees", Who Live in KOREA ONLY, are BEING TARGETED by "some people". These highly regarded individuals are true champions of service to the GLOBAL community of Korean Adoptees.
Fellow Colleague in This Thing of Ours-Adoption, Jane Jeong Trenka reported on the Korean Women's Development Institute Report last May 2009 on "Reviewing Issues on Unwed Mothers" which was co-sponsored by Korean Unwed Mothers Support Network (KUMSN)
Though Ms. Trenka and the KWB differ on 10-20% of the issues, we have continued professional contact on the BIG ISSUES and exchange of data ON ADOPTION not on the ELECTION at all.
Independently, using the Korean Women's Development Institute's own charts from the MOHWFA, Jane and some of members of TRACK (Truth and Reconciliation for Adoptee Community in Korea-
"TRACK is "Truth and Reconciliation for the Adoption Community of Korea"
We are an organization advocating full knowledge of past and present Korean adoption practices to protect the human rights of adult adoptees, children, and families.
Well, just recently Ms. Trenka posted this on her blog Jane's Blog
She had discovered after fully translating the entire document from the KWDI's MAY 2009 report what the KWB first noticed months ago. THOUSANDS OF CIVIL CODE LAW adoptions ARE recorded, SURPRISE!!!
The truth may be stunning and shock most of us both here and abroad. The KWB had to depend on the English summary but discovered in the May 2009 KWDI Executive Summary that there may be almost DOUBLE numbers of CIVIL CODE LAW adoptions (TO Koreans AND "DUTCH DIPLOMATS"-Anyone can get a baby under this program!!! The DUTCH adoption was NOT InterCountry Adoption, folks but under Civil Code Law). LET ME MAKE THIS CLEAR. The CIVIL CODE LAW Adoptions do Not come under DOMESTIC OR INTERCOUNTRY ADOPTION numbers. WHO IS HIDING the Civil Code Law Adoption numbers?
Reviewing Issues on Unwed Mothers' Welfare in Korea
in Developed CountriesThere have been two tracks of laws for adopting children within
Under the influence of Confucian tradition, family bond and lineage have been strongly emphasized in
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(This has been a TEACHING MOMENT)
KWB notes that PRIVATE adoption through CIVIL CODE Law has become MORE possible to keep SECRET, thus avoiding SHAME OF INFERTILITY, or to GUARANTEE THE SEX of the child. Recent laws allows INDIVIDUAL REGISTRY in the Hojeok system. Previously Adoptive Parents were forced to include the birth parents on the Hoju-Father's Family Registry.The Korean War Baby stinks at Korean Language, you know I am only a VILLAGE 
FOOL. The sheer numbers Dwarf the "Domestic Adoptions" almost by double!!! Wonder if Korea can sign the Hague Convention on Adoption if they CONTINUE to allow SECRET adoptions where the child is NOT EVER TOLD that they have OTHER Birth Family members walking about the country.
Anyone, in the local Community of Korean Adoptees that is friendly with the KWB has been targeted by "Some people". Yet, it is through errors on their own part (Some People), that key documents and files have fallen into my hands from their own haste or Ooops factor.
FOOL. The sheer numbers Dwarf the "Domestic Adoptions" almost by double!!! Wonder if Korea can sign the Hague Convention on Adoption if they CONTINUE to allow SECRET adoptions where the child is NOT EVER TOLD that they have OTHER Birth Family members walking about the country.Anyone, in the local Community of Korean Adoptees that is friendly with the KWB has been targeted by "Some people". Yet, it is through errors on their own part (Some People), that key documents and files have fallen into my hands from their own haste or Ooops factor.
"Wrongly accused of aiding and feeding information" to the KWB. These are people who has UNselfishly done MUCH MORE than the Korean War Baby, men and women of outstanding caliber, who I honor as champions of service to the GREATER ADOPTION COMMUNITY IN THE ENTIRE WORLD. One individual has even NOT looked into his own case because his other siblings, who were adopted, might be jealous if HE found his own birth family. For those who do live in Korea we do have advantages.
Some have served daily, working overtime on adoptee's cases, because they are so dedicated. Do you know the low salary of STAFF working at GOA'L? I am ashamed to admit that though THEY work 40 to 50 hours a week AND yet they earn hardly enough to get by. Full time staff earned less than just (2) two of my businessmen-students pay me...and I only 'work' 16 hours compared to their average 45 plus hours. WE NEED TO GIVE THEM A RAISE!!
AND I will tell you even Secretary General Wenger was paid not much more. THE ENTIRE STAFF, including VOLUNTEERS from the KOREAN brothers and sisters have given their TIME, EFFORTS, sacrified making more MONEY, to help US, ALL of us, from every country in the WORLD that we have been sent to for adoption.
As you know, I am FOR a multi-tiered approach to This Thing of Ours-Adoption. Perhaps if SOME PEOPLE read my blog they would see WHY. A few lament, "WHY are you so angry"? Actually, I am outraged at the damn APATHY of the silent majority. You read this- but DO NOTHING.
IT IS IMPORTANT FOR YOU TO ACTUALLY DO SOMETHING TO KEEP GOA'L truly GLOBAL.
FOR many years Korean Volunteers and Korean Adoptees served side by side at GOA'L...they have given their Blood, sweat, and tears, literally and figuratively. SOME PEOPLE have sought to take over for their own what was created and has been maintained by adoptees FOR adoptees OVER THE GLOBE. I have not set out to destroy that which I love but to save it.
(Warning!! 'Cheap Political Thriller Theater' here!!)BUT a great plague has come upon the land, creating a stench, creeping into the fibers and strong standards of the very core values of Global Overseas Adoptee's Link.
Note first: GLOBAL- Dear me, what ever does it mean to be Global?
Does it mean only American Korean Adoptees? We do number TWICE those of our European brothers and sisters by rough estimates. Doesn't it mean then ALL the countries, surely it DOES.
Yet, a few would seem to have different interpretations..."Community of Adoptees" a term used by an esteemed and learned (not being naughty, respect the degrees) individual who is adroit, sapient, and perspicacious- Well, I digress, as my great friend Nick would say.
Community of Adoptees DOES NOT mean YOU GUYS AND GALS who are not living in Seoul, Korea apparently. You know, you members of GLOBAL Overseas Adoptees' Link.
A great idea has flashed into the empty mind of the KWB:
Korean Adoptees Living in Korea
KADLinK
KADLinK
So, for all those Korean Adoptees living in Korea, go start your own Non-Government Organization, call it KADLinK. Be a member of ASK, TRACK, GOA'L, and KADLinK, but stay out of politics on for GOA'L.
Make KADLinK your own POLITICAL Vehicle, NOT the GLOBAL Overseas Adoptees Link!!! GOT THAT?
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Dear readers, it doesn't take a rocket scientist to do what I have done. Googling people's names, checking the websites, intently searching for written work by others, THIS IS WHAT I HAVE DONE. I have over 3 thousand files, articles, links, on the subject and I am NO expert BUT the COMPLEXITY demands listening and hearing, being willing to compromise when facts are learned.
Several key documents were sent to so many people that when Concerned Citizens listed as Advisors to GOA'L, saw some curious things so THEY sent me copies. I received 2 or 3 copies from others. Major MISTAKES involved staff innocen
tly or covertly, even the KWB does not know for the email addresses were used once and discarded...Many have been sending such things to KWB. I will not reveal any sources.WHY IS Mr. WENGER calling people and demanding to know if they are FEEDING ME INFORMATION. Doesn't he know that KWB is employing age old techniques of warfare?
"Create suspicion and confusion, maximize unease and doubts" such is the tenets of Psy Ops since the dawn of mankind. Even in the Bible, one can learn much on the art of war.
LET ME MAKE THIS CLEAR!!! No I don't have spies feeding me information, but I do have many in the WORLD WIDE Community of Korean Adoptees, and in the Community of KAD's currently living in the country. Bits and pieces of information, I have analyzed them, trying to discern what was going on. I may be wrong on somethings and would love to dialog with "Some People".
Anytime, and any place, 'bring it on' (OH DON'T WORRY, I will come unarmed in weaponry, with only my 2 years in Junior college- without even a degree- and an OVER Passionate Zeal. I will be armed with the Words of my mouth, simple not eloquent but will go 'toe to toe' on the matters at hand, This Thing of Ours-Adoption.
I ask for those of you who have read my blog and perhaps understand the "style of written hyperbole, with humorous photos, colorful and over-the-top style" writings of a "village fool" as artistic endeavors on my humble part- to teach others about This Thing of Ours-Adoption. Oh, please FORGIVE me if I have FRIGHTENED anyone.Please let me know personally if you are also, threatened or scared of me. Any criticism of my style of writing or suggestions would be looked at carefully as I "reflect".
ON VIOLENT BEHAVIOR
You know, I will say this, my adoptive mother would have 'slapped me into tomorrow' if I ever laid hands violently on a woman. My Momma raised me to rescue dogs on the street (no comparisons here to women, sheesh), birds, cats, and she herself was slapped around by abusive men until she met my dear Father, Donald Graham BELL. Dad would never condone hitting a woman.
(Oh, dear!! my sister Lorelei might tell you of a couple times of veiled threats with my switchblade...Dad broke the blade and used a belt on me just that once.) Some people think "Spare the rod" but I believe a good stitch or smack on the butt is needed sometimes.
I have never threatened nor actually committed physical violence on any woman, nor have I struck a woman (Oh, I did punch one guy's girlfriend in her nose when I turned around she was trying to hit me with a bottle of Jack Daniels...BUT I was able to 'pull my punch' back in time to only hurt a little, the bottle bounced off my thick head-bar fight long ago).
I abhor those who beat, abuse, or mishandle any weaker person and think they also need professional counseling. HEY, I have gotten a lot for my own help, from the folks at Vineyard Christian Fellowship.
In 1985 I became a Christian and though I am not a great one, still dealing with ISSUES of my past let me make this CLEAR- I am restrained from violent behavior by a much greater force, THE LOVE OF GOD. Before that I was a terrible person, used women for sex, fought with anyone who angered me, I was a total mess. "But for the grace of God, go I" and I would be a total mess or dead by now.
Perhaps the European mindset does not understand or appreciate some of the more
American style things I have done on my blog. I do wish that I could violence sometimes, but that is totally out of the question, YES? Use of videos, photos, etc. are the "tools of the trade" to entertain with outrageously silly things but with the aim of getting SOME ideas across. THIS IS WHAT I HAVE DONE.I ask for any reader for your imput and your advice on these matters, if you can spare a few minutes. We all have so much on our plates.
I will reflect on everything you tell me;
but one thing I will not do is back off from stopping any group that want to stop any child from having a
chance at life. If at all possible with their natural mother- if she is willing to try to keep her baby;
or with a Korean family
within the country,
that will openly adopt not secretly;
or with ethnic Korean people including Korean Adoptees living in foreign lands...Then finally any Blended family that has been properly vetted by authorities, allow THEM to adopt Trans-nationally and trans-racially.
but one thing I will not do is back off from stopping any group that want to stop any child from having a
chance at life. If at all possible with their natural mother- if she is willing to try to keep her baby;or with a Korean family
within the country,
that will openly adopt not secretly;
or with ethnic Korean people including Korean Adoptees living in foreign lands...Then finally any Blended family that has been properly vetted by authorities, allow THEM to adopt Trans-nationally and trans-racially.
Whew, that was tiring to say.
Love is not limited to biological relationship, and nothing is guaranteed in life. The issues are complex but there can be better ways found to help every child have a chance in this life.
I stand by what I have written on my blog EVEN my week of utter Madness, Slipping into DARKNESS. I HAVE NOT threatened with physical or mental violence in any way. Am I guilty of PASSION, YES.
But Here I stand, I will not be moved!!
But Here I stand, I will not be moved!!
If you have some time in your busy life, please give me your short or long response.
Sincerely,
Don Gordon BELL
The Korean War Baby
"I am not Scary, I'm just drawn that way."
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