Unwed mothers need aid

Unwed mothers need aid - INSIDE JoongAng Daily

YOU SEE, The Korean War Baby is not making this all up! This JoongAng Daily articles references the NY Times here article which actually is about the Evan B. Donaldson Adoption Institute’s November study. Link is here Beyond Culture Camp. Take time to read at least the Overview in the first pages.
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“The country has been trying to shake off the dishonor of being one of the largest “exporters of orphans.” Yet abandoned babies are still carried off overseas in search of families that want them. Most of the babies put up for adoption come from single mothers. Of 1,250 children adopted by foreign families last year, 90 percent were born to single women. Children continue to be put up for adoption because our society does not approve of unmarried women raising a child on their own. The same paper last month pointed out that most single women give up babies because Korean society eyes them almost like criminals.”

Can you see why only 25% of unwed mothers try to keep their babies? Yet ten years ago the numbers were only 5% so things are improving. Society will take some time, as the conditions are similar to USA in early 1960's on attitudes. In western society it is accepted (Single mothers) so much that we don't even think of it. Not so in Korea, yet, but with divorce now rampant it has changed laws concerning "Family registry", custody, etc. Many single women who got divorced now need childcare centers for example.

“Laws can be changed but the hearts of the people take longer.” KWB

Shame and guilt has NOT worked, all methods must be tried though to help change the hearts of our mothers' people. Society is slowly moving forward, we cannot change the past, only help form the future. We who were adopted must try to understand all these facts as we sort out the Why’s and How’s of our lives. It would be nice if there was no need of abortion, divorce, adoption, but let's be real...This Thing of Ours-Adoption will be a reality for a few more years.