Frank Gets Birthday Present!-The Call

From Don,
This is the email that I received from my great friend and co-worker in California, Frank was a domestic adoptee, in the state of California. He just recently got his records from the hospital, posted info on Classmates.com and in just one month, two days before his 50th birthday he got THE CALL!

Franks message (edited for privacy):

"Last night I received a phone call in response to an e-mail I sent to G******* B*****, thinking that he was my birth father. He said to me, " My name is G******* B******....I am not your birth father but I have been married to your birth mother for 52 years". 





WOW!!!! I was stunned! I spoke to G****** for 20 minutes before I first heard her voice. She had been listening-in the whole time. They saw my pics posted on Classmates.com and complimented me on my handsome son and beautiful wife. Those pics are the first time she has ever seen me. She explained the trauma and the drama that lead to my birth. She was raped at 19 while he was over seas with the Marine Corp. They were young and this was not the way then envisioned starting a family. They were counseled to put me up for adoption.

They called me tonight May 18th 2009, on her 70th bithday. On May 20th, two days from now I will be 50. It was very exciting to hear her voice and to know for the first time how I came to being. I thanked both of them for choosing life and giving me up for adoption. She didn't even know if I was a boy or girl! On my birthdays, , she would pray for me. G****** was a pastor for 40 years, now retired. They live in *****. They have two sons and one daughter. Their kids don't know I exist. I told them if they chose not to tell their kids about me, that’s perfectly ok. “I just want you to know I am alive and well”, I said to J*****. “Thank you for giving me life!” They are open to a face to face meeting. They both seem like the nicest people you ever want to meet.

Here is the email I sent them through classmates.com:

Hello G******,

My name is Frank P. from California. I was born on May 20, ****) at ******** Hospital in Orange, Ca. My birth mother's name was J****** ******* and you share my birth fathers name. I was adopted by a great family who adopted a total of 5 kids after having three of their own. I've had an exciting life thus far. Both of my parents are dead. Not wanting to offend them, I never expressed my curiosity about my birth parents. My mom always told me that I was "chosen" therefore I was special. She was a saint. You certainly could be my birth father based on age. If you are the man I seek, my understanding is that you are Filipino. I am also Dutch and English. I am married with a handsome 7 year old son. None of this would have been possible if my birth mother ended my life prematurely. You see G., I was an unwanted pregnancy. I thank God that J. chose "life" for me. I hope to someday meet her to thank her for the gift of life.

That is my story. If you are my birth father, I hope you have the courage to meet me. Perhaps you've wondered about me. Maybe you feel guilt. Please don't. I'm not angry and I'm happy to be alive and have a family of my own. I just want to know what you are like for I am part of you.

Please respond if I'm right or wrong. Thanks

Frank P."


I rejoice with my brother in Christ for his great Birthday Present. Sometimes reunions are good, healing, some are quite the opposite with birthmothers not wanting to reveal the secret (And I must understand why mothers cannot do so, living with their feelings within their hearts, whatever they may be). We, adoptees who ARE ALIVE and curious about our birth parents though can share Frank's feelings. This THING of ours, ADOPTION is complex, a rainbow of issues, but we are at the core, the center of it all.
This last three days I was "taping" a Korean TV show, (finally got one). Still have to sort out all the events. Thursday was four hours of interviewing (with interpretation), Friday had a session with a Psychologist who gave me a hypnotherapy session, then met a famous Mudang (Shaman priestess). I am 'pulling out all the stops' in my search, though I must keep objective and sort out all the information that was 'learned' from these alternative means. I will not simply take at face value everything I was told or "remembered" under hypnosis. Please make comments or advice on these issues after I post on them in the next couple of days.