“Open Adoption” is a practice that is rarely done, many cases start with contact between Natural/Birth Mother and Adoptive Parents but over time becomes less and less. In some cases Birthmothers lose contact by choice or just circumstances of difficulties of life. She might have to move or changed her phone numbers, or just cannot face continuing with contact.
In many cases the Adoptive Parents chose to lessen the contact, fearing too much would be confusing to ‘their’ Adopted child. Most States do not enforce contact. Here is an amazing story of and Open Open Adoption.
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Drawbacks can occur when the adults are unable to communicate, when boundaries are in question, or when one party closes the adoption unexpectedly.
“One of my favorite things about open adoption is that Hannah has never had to question whether or not I love her. She has grown up seeing my love firsthand. And I have been able to see with my own eyes, over and over, that Hannah is loved and cared for beyond comprehension.”
This story is one that should be studied for a model of Open Adoptions. What elements allowed these people to work out such a relationship? Not all can do it, but perhaps there are lessons and guidelines in examining their journey.